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Friday, February 15, 2008

How to look good naked!

Some of you may know that there is a new show on the Lifetime Network called “How to look good naked”. I have never seen it, but heard a lot about it. The premise of the show is taking women of all ages and sizes and helping them love their body they way that they are…without making any physical changes.
Today the host was on Oprah and I sat down to watch it, after all…this is something I need to learn to do myself! The host said something that hit me like a ton of bricks!!

I will openly admit that I am not confident in my own skin. I know I need to lose at least 20 pounds before looking good to the “outside world”! But, I am also trying to learn to be happy with what I have!! The body I had in high school (at the time) wasn’t good enough for me then (in my mind) so why would it be good enough for me now!? So…I am letting that “dream” go!

Anyway, what I really wanted to share with you…

The host said *basically* to let go of what others think and/or have over you because you need to realize what YOU have over them!! There will always be someone younger, prettier, skinnier, and smarter than you – no matter what you look like! But, no one will ever have your husband, your children, your life, etc. THAT IS SO TRUE!! It wouldn’t matter if I was 105 or 505 lbs – Chad will still love me the same. And it wouldn’t matter if I was 105 or 505 lbs, Charli will always be my baby girl…and I will always be her mommy!! These are two things in my life that I know many others wish they could have. And, if given the choice I would always chose them over the other! So, how silly am I for having self-doubt! So, like so much if life, rather than looking at what we want and what we don’t have we need to focus on what we have.

So, this is my vow to myself – next time I see someone who looks “perfect” I will remember while although I may not be a size 6, I have the BEST husband in the world, the most precious daughter, amazing parents, an unremarkable family, and so many things that I KNOW others wish they had…that I do!! And, I would hope that you can do the same thing – for whatever it is that is your “weakness”, like weight is for me.



Anonymous said...

hey brenda, that is so true we should treasure what we have instead of long for what we don't!!!!!!!!!!! cara

AndreaChad said...

I too was watching the show and what a concept that is SO true and I really never thought about until it was said there!

Missy said...

amen sister! i love that show--and i saw that oprah too!! gotta be happy in your own skin! hey, us farm girls are HOT!!! i know, cuz my hubby just told me so yesterday!! : )

Anonymous said...

That really has me thinking. I too struggle with the fact that I just don't look like I did when I got married. But, you know what, I have a wonderful husband that loves me and a beautiful baby girl to show for this bigger tummy of mine. I wouldn't trade them for anything, not even the extra 25 pounds. And I too know that so many people would love to have what I have. Thank you Brenda for sharing that.